Show her you care

by Jill Dickie

On publicly recognised days such as Mother’s Day it is accepted and expected we purchase gifts to celebrate the recipient on that day, but it doesn’t need to be a matter of spending money nor of only recognising them on that day alone.

Living overseas may have you feeling a long way away from mum, whether you are away or she is, but there are still ways to connect via the internet, through Skype for instance. There is also the option of sending virtual flowers and cards through cyberspace from the many sites available. Maybe this day is an opportunity to make an effort to stay in touch if you haven’t yet!

It could be that this year you need to visit your mum in a hospital in which case she will be pleased to see you more than a gift, in fact, anything familiar that feels like her home. If you want to take a gift, consider some of her favourite things such as a special photograph, the cushion from her chair, or something from her jewellery collection. These things will be so much more meaningful to her and knowing you thought deeply about her will definitely score you some brownie points! 

If she is in full-time care, it is still important to visit and show her you’re thinking of her, regardless of whether she remembers it’s Mother’s Day or not pay a visit, and bring a handmade card or even home baking if that’s allowed.

Sadly some families need to visit their mums at a cemetery and taking a bunch of fresh flowers and doing a spot of weeding is both a time for communicating and healing, including a beautiful time of remembrance.

From an entirely different perspective, perhaps you are disconnected from your mother and family this year. It may be a matter of doing your duty a little begrudgingly, or not making contact at all, either way, let the day go by, and maybe next year you might feel better about it. Or the year after.

Of course, it should be mentioned that mothers everywhere should be recognised every day, not only on this one day. 

They run the household in many cases, some work full-time jobs then come home for their ‘other’ job, often placing their own needs as a low priority. Their maternal instinct developed before you were born, they watch out for you emotionally, spiritually, and physically, whether you want them to or not, so show some love and at the very least pick up the phone and say “Thanks, Mum.”